Well today has been 5 months since we got married! The weather has been beautiful the last couple of days and today is supposed to be the nicest day yet. It should get up to 67 degrees and be sunny. God knew just what I needed today!
I am a huge sucker for Teen Mom on MTV and last Tuesday night Catelynn and Tyler got married on it. They got married just one week exactly before Darren and I, them on August 22nd and us on August 29th. All I could like about was what we were doing on that weekend they were getting married...attending the pre-deployment conference.....yay us. I was a blubbering mess throughout the second half of the show. It just took me back to Darren's and my wedding and it was just such a wonderful day. It took me back to our rehearsal, saying our vows, exchanging our rings, kissing for the first time as husband and wife, and our first dance. It was just magical! Thankfully I have our wedding on DVD and can watch it anytime I want.
This month has taken a huge emotional toll on me. I think it's because Darren and I haven't seen each other at all this year. Of course we "see" each other on FaceTime but we can touch, tickle, cuddle, and do all the other things that a husband and wife should be able to do. I think, in a sense, we have been getting closer through prayer and our daily devotional. It's helping us to learn even more about each other and bring us closer to God. It's also making us appreciate what each of us does for the other better. Darren said he was never going to take me for granted ever again. When he comes back I think we will live in the moment more and be there for each other in ways like never before. We have a lot of stuff to look forward to and that is the only thing that is keeping me going these days. We are almost half way done.
So how does a girl celebrate 5 months of marriage when her husband is deployed? By going to Blingo Bingo at the base and taking her best friend Emilie! Here's to hoping we both win some fancy jewelry!
Friday, January 29, 2016
Monday, January 4, 2016
Marriage: Month 4
Well Darren and I are officially 1/4 of the way done with our first year of marriage!
This month we learned even more about communication than we ever have before. Being over 6,000 miles apart will do that to a couple. We use FaceTime, Facebook Messenger, and email as our three main forms of communication, with Facetime being the biggest. We have even utilized Facebook calls as a way to communicate with FaceTime doesn't quite work right. Who knew! Technology has played a huge part of keeping us connected while he is gone. I would be lost without it.
We started praying every night on FaceTime together. It's one of my most favorite parts of the day and soothes me a little bit before I *try* to go to sleep. Before he left I was all about my sleep, but now, it's hard to sleep when he's not beside me. In turn, I watch Netflix. Technology, though. Isn't it the greatest? We have also started doing daily devotionals every evening. He's usually at work and I'm sitting in my comfy bed with HGTV on in the background. Today will only be day 4 of that. I think it will help us learn even more about each other.
The topic of kids comes up quite a bit in our conversations, and I may or may not have already bought baby L something. Before he left, we were both all about trying when he comes back. Now, we aren't quite sure. We want to be selfish and take some time to ourselves and just be us for awhile longer. I feel kinda robbed of time with him leaving the country after only two months of marriage, and I know he feels the same way. We are both young so I don't see it as a big issue :)
This month we learned even more about communication than we ever have before. Being over 6,000 miles apart will do that to a couple. We use FaceTime, Facebook Messenger, and email as our three main forms of communication, with Facetime being the biggest. We have even utilized Facebook calls as a way to communicate with FaceTime doesn't quite work right. Who knew! Technology has played a huge part of keeping us connected while he is gone. I would be lost without it.
We started praying every night on FaceTime together. It's one of my most favorite parts of the day and soothes me a little bit before I *try* to go to sleep. Before he left I was all about my sleep, but now, it's hard to sleep when he's not beside me. In turn, I watch Netflix. Technology, though. Isn't it the greatest? We have also started doing daily devotionals every evening. He's usually at work and I'm sitting in my comfy bed with HGTV on in the background. Today will only be day 4 of that. I think it will help us learn even more about each other.
The topic of kids comes up quite a bit in our conversations, and I may or may not have already bought baby L something. Before he left, we were both all about trying when he comes back. Now, we aren't quite sure. We want to be selfish and take some time to ourselves and just be us for awhile longer. I feel kinda robbed of time with him leaving the country after only two months of marriage, and I know he feels the same way. We are both young so I don't see it as a big issue :)
Monday, November 30, 2015
Marriage: Month 3
Yesterday marked 3 months of marriage! Darren usually FaceTimes me before he goes to work and I asked him if he remembered what today was and he said we've been married for 3 months! To me, it feels much longer than three months. This month, we have learned how to survive without each other. I haven't cried in about a week. It helps setting new routines and not sticking to our old one we had regarding morning routines, exercise routines, mealtimes, and our nighttime routine. We'll get that when he comes back! Even though I wasn't sure it was possible, I am doing ok and I think we are both getting in a good routine of what will work best for us both. In summary, this month we learned that although we need each other, it is possible to live without each other. For awhile as least. I'm ready for our old routines to come back.
Wednesday, November 11, 2015
My heart aches for summer
It's Veteran's Day today and my Veteran is overseas. I'm so proud of him and love him very much. It's so different here without him. He's not dead, but people are always giving me sad eyes and crying. His stuff is exactly where he left it. I even had to put some things away because it hurt so much, such as his water bottles, bathroom towel and wash cloth, toothbrush, and lunch box. I sleep in the middle of our bed now, with his pillows surrounding me and me hugging my body pillow pretending it is him. His car (that I can't drive) is parked in the same spot, just as if he were home. I come home from work each day and just want to run into his strong arms and for him to tell me everything will be ok. But he's not there, and he won't be for awhile. It hasn't been that long since he's been away, but to me it feels like weeks. I dread the months ahead and how slow they may go. Right now, my heart aches so bad for summer.
Monday, November 9, 2015
He's Gone
I can't say when and I can't say where, but he's gone. I kissed him one last time and watched him fly away until I couldn't see him anymore. It's a strange feeling not having my husband in the same state anymore, let alone the same country. I hate the feeling of the unknown, going to bed by myself, seeing his car parked in the same spot, folding his laundry one last time, making him dinners, going to the gym together, and not being able to touch him.
He feels sad too, and I know it will get better with time. In a way, I don't want to get used to this, because then it's like I am used to him being gone, but I don't want to feel this way all the time! I just miss him and want him to come home. At least this trip is for something good and important. I really could not be proud to call Darren my husband.
He has an important job to do, but so do I. I think my job will revolve around trying to be happy, keeping him in the loop of all the goings on of things back home, and supporting him. It's not going to be easy, but it will be worth it in the long run. Face Time, love letters, and texts make it all a little bit easier. I hope time will start speeding up because it feels like it has been going at snail speed lately.
He feels sad too, and I know it will get better with time. In a way, I don't want to get used to this, because then it's like I am used to him being gone, but I don't want to feel this way all the time! I just miss him and want him to come home. At least this trip is for something good and important. I really could not be proud to call Darren my husband.
He has an important job to do, but so do I. I think my job will revolve around trying to be happy, keeping him in the loop of all the goings on of things back home, and supporting him. It's not going to be easy, but it will be worth it in the long run. Face Time, love letters, and texts make it all a little bit easier. I hope time will start speeding up because it feels like it has been going at snail speed lately.
Wednesday, October 21, 2015
What I've Learned: Month One and Two
My friend from high school and church got married last November and she started doing posts on her blog about what she learned in each month of marriage. I thought it was a great idea. Darren and I weren't even engaged at that time, but I knew it would probably happen soon, so I kept the idea in my mind to use someday on my own blog.
Month 1: August 29-September 29
Keep in mind that Darren and I lived together for a year before we got married. So married life feels pretty much the same as engaged life. Throughout the past year we had already discussed expectations from one another concerning chores around the house, etc. Even though it feels pretty much the same, Darren and I both agree that we feel a little different now that we're married, more mature.
After the wedding, Darren and I flew off to St. Thomas for our honeymoon. We spent 24/7 together which has never happened before! Coming home and back to reality was really hard. We both missed all that time we had together. So, in an effort to see each other more, I'd bring him happy hour drinks from Sonic and visit him during lunch. It's a lot easier for me to do these things because he was always the only one in his office.
We discussed money and expenses. I made an info sheet that has all of our usernames and passwords for our checking account, our credit card accounts, emails, and other miscellaneous things. We discussed telling each other and asking before we make big purchases. Trips to Wal-Mart and the gas station, for example, don't have to be discussed because those are necessities. My trips to Kohls and Maurices have dwindled down to almost nothing :)
Month 2: September 29-October 29
I know it's 8 days before October 29th, so if I happen to learn something else in that time frame, I promise I will share :)
This month we have learned a lot more about how to communicate with each other better. With Darren working in Wichita since the beginning of October, our great schedule that we had, has become completely out of whack! Darren asked me what I needed and I just said more communication throughout the day. So he suggested calling me at set times of the day. Over the month, that has evolved a lot. Last night, we talked about it some more, and I think we have finally reached something that will work for us both.
So most of September was spent finding new ways to spend more time with each other and most of October was spent finding new ways on how to communicate with each other better.
Bring it on November!
Month 1: August 29-September 29
Keep in mind that Darren and I lived together for a year before we got married. So married life feels pretty much the same as engaged life. Throughout the past year we had already discussed expectations from one another concerning chores around the house, etc. Even though it feels pretty much the same, Darren and I both agree that we feel a little different now that we're married, more mature.
After the wedding, Darren and I flew off to St. Thomas for our honeymoon. We spent 24/7 together which has never happened before! Coming home and back to reality was really hard. We both missed all that time we had together. So, in an effort to see each other more, I'd bring him happy hour drinks from Sonic and visit him during lunch. It's a lot easier for me to do these things because he was always the only one in his office.
We discussed money and expenses. I made an info sheet that has all of our usernames and passwords for our checking account, our credit card accounts, emails, and other miscellaneous things. We discussed telling each other and asking before we make big purchases. Trips to Wal-Mart and the gas station, for example, don't have to be discussed because those are necessities. My trips to Kohls and Maurices have dwindled down to almost nothing :)
Month 2: September 29-October 29
I know it's 8 days before October 29th, so if I happen to learn something else in that time frame, I promise I will share :)
This month we have learned a lot more about how to communicate with each other better. With Darren working in Wichita since the beginning of October, our great schedule that we had, has become completely out of whack! Darren asked me what I needed and I just said more communication throughout the day. So he suggested calling me at set times of the day. Over the month, that has evolved a lot. Last night, we talked about it some more, and I think we have finally reached something that will work for us both.
So most of September was spent finding new ways to spend more time with each other and most of October was spent finding new ways on how to communicate with each other better.
Bring it on November!
Tuesday, October 20, 2015
Meet Darren
Darren called me on his lunch break so I interviewed him. Here are his answers:
Favorite food? Out: Pizza/Home: Kaitie’s lasagna
Favorite song? Anything by Nickelback
Are you a morning or night person? Night
Favorite childhood television program? Rocket Power
What is usually your first thought in the morning? Giving Kaitie a good morning kiss
What is your favorite color? Red
Have any bad habits: Not looking people in the eye when I talk
List three of your best personality traits: Resourceful, observant, and caring
List three of your worst personality traits: Procrastinating, being too quiet, and being too passive
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live? Either Colorado Springs or Oklahoma City
If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go? Boston, Massachusetts
Name 1 regret you have? Not doing my best in high school
Name 1 thing you miss about being a kid? Not having any responsibility
Name 1 thing you love about being an adult: Doing whatever I want, as long as it’s ok with Kaitie :)
What would be your dream job? Being an accountant as Koch Industries. No wait, being an accountant for a hockey team,
What would you rather have, 100 million dollars or true love? True love
Name 1 thing people may not know about you: I like watching cartoons more than live action movies
Do you believe in the afterlife? Yes.
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